Saturday, December 19, 2009

Revenging The Static Of Love - "Love Sick Diaries"'s MySpace Blog | lovesickdiaries.com/blog.html

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How to end a crush, if it is just a crush

It was tough to figure out what I wanted to write about tonight, first I had the idea of pleasing my writing with making some sort of love list on how to reveal a crush but than I got scared cause I think it might be somewhat scary to reveal a crush especially if it were one that has lasted in such an entirely long amount of time.

Is there a time limit you can have on a specific crush? I don’t know, can and are you allowed to use a crush to get over another crush? These are the thoughts that have been consistently on repeat mode in my mind recently, and after some recent self-reflection; I have learned greatly that I have purposely jumped into obsessive love infatuations that have been specifically created on a sub conscious level with the absolute sole motivation to distract me mentally from another crush, or the main long lasting crush shall we refer to it as, how Parisian is that…

Should I reveal this main crush? Should I find and search out a new victim to crush on? Should she be single? Or should she be unattainable, so it extends the crush as now I have to chase and this furthers my amount of distraction from the “main long lasting crush”?

What would you do? How to just get over a crush?

The dictionary refers to a “crush” as being an intense infatuation that is just passing. Wow, what the fuck does “passing,” mean…. passing can be a lifetime in my book…

I would more so view a “crush” as a bittersweet period of time during which you are infatuated with someone you are highly unlikely to ever hook up with (but in your mind you must), eventually leading to a childish dopey ness snuggled by mild temper tantrums, when realization sets…(reality can come and go in spurts)

Regardless of the definition, I am sure we can all come to terms and somewhat of an agreement that a crush usually fucking sucks, and in ways the human heart seems incapable to deal with at times. Well it is either that or the heart has the kinky fetish of masochism, but with either route, I hear there must come a time when you “need” to get over your crush and move forward with your “life”. So if that time is NOW please continue to READ on.

Rule Numero Uno: Understanding What A Crush Isn’t

Once you realize and desire to get over a crush, you could see how easy it is to get over them. The problem is that most people make mistaken them for actual love when they start. We tend to often confuse these crushes as love-at-first-sight, when it actually isn’t.

Rule Numero Dos: Determining Whether or not it’s a Crush

Close your eyes and picture yourself, passionately kissing your crush. Did you wrinkle your nose once your eyelids shut, if so, the person you are crushing on is most likely someone you admire a great deal, but not someone you’d want to sleep next too? Or is it?

If you can imagine yourself kissing them, and imagine taking them somewhere highly public, but if you wrinkled your nose in embarrassment, this is someone you would love sleeping next to and having sex with, but someone you have no intentions to have a meaningful relationship with, (shallow you are)

Now close your eyes, picture saying, “I do,” if you burst into laughter well this is not Mr or Mrs Right and your crush is just physical.

Numero Tres: Dealing with the Results

If you are actually in love with the crush, congratulations! You do not have a crush, and therefore have nothing to get over. You may actually have a broken heart, which probably sucks a whole lot worse…sorry about that…oh fuck!!!

If you have determined that you do have a crush, you are now aware enough to realize that you are either not physically attracted to them at all or that you are but don’t give a rats ass otherwise, use one of these methods to get over it, (listening to Moby songs is not one of the methods)

-Picture making out with the person as often as possible, consider yourself cured when you been conditioned to gag upon seeing them.

-Sleep with them and get the lust out of your system, you’re likely to lose all respect for them immediately afterwards, and will now probably gag upon seeing them regardless.

IF THIS STILL DOESN’T WORK

Tell them about it

What keeps a crush exciting is the unknown factor, the moment you tell someone you have a crush on him or her, you make it a reality. Your mind is forced to change gears and deal with things like an adult, in real time. You can’t just tell someone you have a crush on him or her and then take it back, well not believably anyhow. Once you tell the crush, you place them in a position of responding on some level and to some extent.

Maybe they’ll proclaim everlasting love right then and there, or perhaps they will stare in horror, maybe curl in a ball and cry in an infantile fashion. Whatever they do, it will sober you up quickly, and the crush will either need to evolve into something bigger and better or cry itself out…either way you’ll now be over your crush.

But remember whenever you look at porn and you see your crush, and than immediately picture white picket fences…it’s not a crush.

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Wednesday, September 2, 2009

A fire without a flame is like an artist without a muse

Having a muse is not like having a wife, husband, boyfriend, or girlfriend; it’s completely different, it’s something much more chaotic and unconventional, it’s something that the ancient Greeks would refer to as the goddesses whom would inspire the creation of literature and the arts, a metaphorical rose stem that leads to producing the beauty through softly passionate knowledge that graces the mind of the artist; a muses affluence and companionship with the artist is the key to unlock the good life for the artist, the energy of the muse is a crystal clear compass that only views accuracy in pointing to the direction of ecstasy. She is just a gorgeous goddess that simply inspires…

Not knowing and understanding the reasons behind vanishing acts, of a muse, can be as if you are falling from a plane without a parachute opening, not even opening, just jumping without one wrapped around your back, holding your tightly lit beliefs, it can be scarier than the feeling of sinking slowly underwater, wanting but not knowingly how to swim up to grasp for your breath, for the air that inspires you to live, love, and create.

You can sit and ponder, with circles running constant laps within your mind, but truly focusing on your heart, only to contemplate untrue ideas that cause you to be emotionally unsound in such a loud violent way, that you just don’t want to believe, you force yourself with conscious attempts to close such passage ways that seem to be all so moist with desired inspiration but for some fucking reason, you just can’t seem to shut those doors, you wish your muse was like a simplistic fictional organized religion but it’s not that simple, as a muse is so much more powerful than god, so much harder just to tell yourself I don’t believe…a muse is the beat to your heart

But know one every talks about what if the muse doesn’t want to be the muse anymore, what if the flame doesn’t want to be apart of the fire anymore, and the flame just vanishes from the fire…does the fire have die, what does the artist do now, without the consistent blessing of the goddess? I think I may have missed this part in Greek studies…. what do you think, or maybe last night was just a bad idea…


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Monday, August 10, 2009

How to Talk to Your Crush Casually

If you're planning on trying to talk to that person you have a crush on, these tips might be helpful.

  1. Approach him/her calmly and use a simple conversation starter such as, "Hey, do we have math homework?" or "Hey what's up?" Talk to them like you would talk to your friends, only not in an offensive way.
  2. If he/she responds, continue the conversation naturally. Let it end naturally, don't be worried about awkward pauses.
  3. When it does end, depending on the conversation, say something like "Thanks" or "Talk to you later."
  4. If he/she doesn't respond, they are probably not interested in you. While you could keep trying, the best option might be just to move on.
  5. If you do want to keep trying, don't get on their nerves. Then they really won't want to be with you.
  6. If the conversation is going okay, like with some smiling on his/her part and he/she is putting effort into the conversation (like talking at least a little--some guys aren't big on talking and some people -- girls and guys -- are shy until you get to know them well), be sure to say something like "Hey, my name is _______. What was your name?" and then leave. This will give them a name to put with your face and think about it, he or she has to know your name before they can really dream about you!
  7. Make sure to not chicken out; it only becomes that much harder to you. Have faith.(:
tips

  • Take a breath mint before talking to him/her. You don't want them to think you have terrible breath. (they will probably be turned off).
  • Girls, don't apply too much make-up, you won't look as good and he might be turned off by it.
  • Also, try to smell nice! It's all about the pheromones. If you smell sweet, their knees be weak. If you're not into perfumes/cologne, just put on deodorant. Just make sure you don't put on too much.
  • The first time is usually the hardest. Each time you talk to that person after you break the ice, it will become easier and easier. Eventually, they should approach you as well.
  • Girls, don't act preppy around them, that only turns them off...
  • Talk about something that interests both of you. If one of you are bored with the conversation, it will probably not be a very good conversation.
  • If you are a straight guy, don't look at her boobs. Look at her no lower than her chin.
  • Never lose self respect. Never do anything that your not 100% comfortable with doing!
  • Always look your best, especially for a first impression.
  • Remember not to be too mean when you tease.
  • Never tell a lie to make yourself look better; chances are they will end up finding out the truth about you and think you're a compulsive liar.
warnings

  • The person you have a crush on may have a boyfriend or girlfriend. If this is the case, talk to them, but don't be too bold and ask them out, unless you want their partner to become very upset at you. If you let them see the good qualities in you, they may consider dumping their partner and giving you an opportunity.
  • Be careful how and when you let them know that you like them. Don't be too bold. Basic flirting should get the job done to let them know that you are available.

Friday, July 24, 2009