Monday, December 19, 2011

christmas potluck games


  1. pictionary
  2. Bursting balloons game is another couples game where the pairs can get a wee bit naughty.The male participant would be sitting cross-legged on the floor. The female participant, on the other hand, would be racing across the room to grab balloons. Every time she catches a balloon, she rushes to her partner and puts the balloon on his lap. Then she would have to sit on the balloon to make the balloon burst. The pair with the most number of balloons burst wins the game. 
  3. musical chairs
  4. "Give me some sugar"
    Partners must face each other with their hands tied behind their backs. Blindfold each player, and then put a sugary treat in one partner’s mouth (it could be a snack cake, candy bar, doughnut, etc.). If the treat is wrapped, they must somehow unwrap the treat, and feed it to their partner. The couple who finishes the entire treat first, without using their hands wins the game .
  5. uno
  6. dumsharads
  7. poker for shots of wine
  8. jenga
  9. movie quiz game
  10. checkers tournament
  11. connect four tourney

Saturday, December 10, 2011

Do You Feel Misunderstood By Your Partner?

Do You Feel Misunderstood By Your Partner?

 Sometimes we feel misunderstood by our gf’s, bf’s, husbands, or wives and this can put us in a state mentally that we truly do not desire. You may feel a sense of disappointment, or upset, or even dissatisfied because you are not able to communicate true feelings accurately to the one you love. Your partner is also powerless in understanding you, your mentality, your thoughts and more.

 This misunderstanding can drive to significant suspicions about the way your connection may turn out to be with one another. You may dread and fear that your partner will not comprehend you, will not be aware to your needs and wants, you may not sense compatibility with him or her, causing fear there will not be emotional satisfaction due to a lack of understanding.

 Reflect on the time that has gone by, and sailed away since you have started this relationship journey. If you journey into the past, realizing that you have not had deep talks, about deep feelings, and haven’t really spent enough time with one another, not just busy time, but real concrete time. The time that helps one another explore each other’s personalities, traits, and digging deep into one another’s soul, it may be natural. Without this sort of time it may be natural that there is a lack of understanding between the both of you.

 Before you do anything drastic, maybe let the clock strike seven a few more times, with more meetings taking place, before you make the decision that he or she is truly incapable of understanding you. If you feel, he or she cannot come to understand you for whom you are, than maybe your journey together is not the best journey for your soul.

 In addition, contemplate and reflect on your own nature. It can be very likely that your partner is having a hard time in understanding you, as you may be shy, or close yourself off, building walls, or not speaking truthfully about your own self. If you are building walls and doing this type of stuff, you will not reveal your true traits about you, maybe coming across as a moody time bomb that can blow any moment. These things will make it hard for he or she to get and understand you, and he or she will need more support from you to make things easier.

 If your partner does not have the maturity, intellect or sensitivity to be in an emotional, and deeply intimate and personal relationship this lack of understanding can be a run on sentence crashing into a real problem that lacks a solution. Sometimes our partners just have not developed the skills of maturity that measure and gauge insight on people and situations, and cannot feel emotions necessary for a deep relationship.

 I am not sure what is worse, but some times partners may not be proactive, not wanting or taking a tackling effort to know you more. He or she may just be consumed and worried about his or her own world, not even making the slightest bit of movement to display interest in getting to know and understand the person that you are. Your partner is selfish. You must talk to him or her about your feelings, if he or she displays signs of aggression or destructive behavior, and not accepting his or her lack of interest in learning about you, and does not want to change this either, well you have a decision to make. You must reconsider things, as this is not a relationship. You do not end things soon; you will enter a world of distress.

 Mike Ahuja

Thursday, December 8, 2011

Saturday, November 12, 2011

Why Do Girls Push Guys Away?


Why Do Girls Push Guys Away?

Here’s a thought for every man that tries to understand, as he walks down the road of love and friendship with beautiful angels that grace the tender emotions of his heart.  Some might say, men are bound by all the weight of a women’s words, chained to all the actions of her doings.  She’s electric like that, she gives a man soul and maybe sometimes she takes his pride, but she’s got many reasons on why she pushes away.

There are 2 types of scenarios in which a girl pushes a guy away; first off I am facing you with the circumstance of when a girl is dating a guy.

In certain situations from what I have come to realize is that a girl may push away a nice guy, because the girl may not be happy with herself, having gone through so many bad relationships they become to feel a certain way.  That way is a sense of skepticism, questioning the man’s motives of why they are being so nice, usually in this sort of situation the girl tends to be waiting for the bottom to drop out, more like hoping the bottom drops out.  She waits by the nightmare of the guy treating her like crap, if her patience doesn’t last, she lights and she pushes away.

Of course there will be the girl’s that claim it’s because they are not ready to settle down yet, but that’s not really the pushing away I am talking about, that’s more two people aren’t really in the same mode of the relationship.

Sometimes though, girls push men away because of men rolling down the mountain like a landslide of overwhelming ness to the point of suffocation.  Guy’s must learn to realize that sometimes too much is too much, sometimes and some girls like to get a little of that chase action, for these girls they get a little bored if the man always comes to them.  These girls need some space, don’t worry she will come to you.  If you smoother these types of women, always telling them how pretty they are, or always trying to hug and kiss them, she will sabotage the relationship.  She will end up pushing you away, leaving you stranded in the desert with nothing except blinded heartache full of confusion. 

Will a girl push a guy away just to see how serious he is?  Will she push him away just to see if he will come back?  Do some women view a guy that constantly comes back the guy that really loves them?

Hey Now!!! Of course girls can be very smart and strategic with their manipulation.  In these circumstances you have to realize the girl is pushing you away, only in desire of wanting to be and feel closer to you, a sort of instinctual pushing away, aka “testing”.

The second scenario is if the girl and guy are not dating, yet.

How many special people change, sometimes guys tend to be able to pick up on the signals of the hello energy that a girl puts out.  An energy, that’s a vibe and connection, that sparks a sort of magical aura, that type of magic that moves friends into something more.  I’m talking about those beautiful girls that hide their true feelings from a man, because they fear sharing their desire for a much closer relationship and for true love.  These women understand their true feelings, and they want to say the things that they are actually feeling in their hearts, but they feel an immense amount blinding from the fear that imprisons their heart and desires.

Like all guys, we’ve had women communicate their feelings in all sorts of fashions from joy to anger to frustration to disappointment to feeling safe to passion, and in the larger context when two people have all these emotions together it creates a road that can lead to that magical aura.  Feelings develop physically, emotionally, and socially but as things get closer these girls push guys away because of the fear, the closeness scares them.  Fear can cause these girls to push guys away, keeping a great connection powerless.

If this is the case, guy’s should try not to develop any negative emotions that would commonly arise in the back their minds, all women are complicated in their own ways and have their own reasons for doing the things they do, but women make the world go round and that’s why we love them.

Mike Ahuja

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Seeing another in one

Have you ever stared into the eyes of a person, and noticed someone else?

Seeing a person as someone else, based on the way the light may hit his or her smile?

As I danced throughout the night, I kept seeing someone else as the dim strobe flickered occasional flashes across her soft face. Maybe it was the twirl of the her hair, that danced across her cheek, or her gracious movement with the music, whatever it was it brought up another.

It was like I saw someone else, but I know it wasn't. It's hard explain, and in no way would I desire it to be nothing other the who it was, just those similarities brought across vivid flashbacks of another life.

Living is not about regressing of the past but creating a new present, adding new faces to your thoughts, just take moments to remember the old ones, they are what's makes and become who we are.


Mike Ahuja
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Thursday, October 13, 2011

5 rules for happiness


5 rules for happiness

1.  free your heart from hatred
2.  free your mind from worries
3.  live simple
4.  give more
5.  expect way less

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Thoughts

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What's right

Sometimes we all go thru journeys and paths that mislead us into areas of incorrect directions, but from those incorrect paths we follow forward towards truth and absolute correctness of what's right.

But what feels right to our mind. Society and morals may differ with these types of beliefs but that is only the publics or the mainstreams ideaology. The important aspect is that you follow your heart, and do not let go, letting go is the real sin.

Mike ahuja
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Tuesday, September 13, 2011

smut by emic

smut by emic



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Tuesday, September 6, 2011

FIVE RULES TO REMEMBER IN LIFE:

FIVE RULES TO REMEMBER IN LIFE:

1. Money cannot buy happiness but its more comfortable to cry in a Mercedes than on a bicycle.
2. Forgive your enemy but remember the bastards name.
3. Help someone when they are in trouble and they will remember you when they're in trouble again.
4. Many people are alive only because its illegal to shoot them.
5. Alcohol does not solve any problems, but then again, neither does milk.

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Gold-digging? Or Filtering? GirlPOV - by miss kai


 Gold-digging? Or Filtering?

It's been a recurring theme that Cali girls are gold diggers. Hold up: let's define gold digger here for a minute. Definition: a person who dates others purely to extract money from them. "PURELY" is the key word here. So if a girl wants a man who is well-off for security reasons (just to know that financially, issues would be less probable than likely), that hardly constitutes the definition of a gold digger.In the city of Angels where girls are known to be a little materialistic and superficial with their designer shades, DIY or salon-painted nails, latest styles in accessories to accentuate their fashion-forward ensemble, and top notch skincare and make-up to complement their facial features makes this city in Cali a crowd that is not so hard on the eyes. And let's be honest boys, I'm sure you guys aren't complaining about the girls that pass you by. So what if we expect the same from boys? We expect a nice appearance from boys as well, because let’s all be real, the first thing we notice is how a person looks on the outside. That is what attracts us to begin with, male or female. If they have a decent car, we assume he has a decent paying job unless his parents or someone for that matter bought it for him. But for the most part, we hardly assume someone buys any materialistic thing a man possesses unless he is under 21. We make assumptions based on the type of car he drives, where he lives, how he acts, his hair, his clothes, and many more until proven otherwise.

The catch phrase "don't judge a book by its cover" of course is partially true. But everybody is guilty of doing so until a deeper relationship is established and first impressions may remain stagnant, evolve, or completely be obsolete. Let's take for example: those infamous Pyramid schemes. How do you think these schemes have been successful for many years? Mental manipulation coupled with teasing the average person with the taste of high life. The people in the top tier of a pyramid drive Beamer, Benz, or Bentleys in their tailored suits and know how to command a crowd with their presence alone. Their presentation in its entirety attracts the suckers to cough up a few bills to their company. Imagine if recruiters had the exact opposite: outdated cars that leave a bad stench as it leaves the driveway, oversized no-name labeled suits, and a speech impediment. Do you honestly think pyramid schemes would flourish under these circumstances? I highly doubt it. Point being: presentation for the most part is key. We make assumptions based on the exterior of a person, place, or thing on more than one occasion/situation.

So why is it so bad if L.A. girls don't want to waste their time on losers and douche bags? Some of the most attractive qualities in a male are success, passion, and gentlemen mannerism. Of course there are so much more qualities needed to make an actual relationship last, but these qualities are what reels us in to spend our time getting to know an individual for something more than just an old memory. Girls want to feel special in a relationship: adventures in the sea, brunch pool/beach side, 5 Michelin Star restaurants, classy Champagne, surprise presents, spontaneous trips, undivided attention, continuous laughter, and more. Of course we do not need to be spoiled, materialistically, 24/7 unless he is financially capable but we want to feel appreciated, loved, or wanted shown by a grand gesture if and when it’s possible (and boys take notes: doing something grandeur doesn’t ALWAYS require money). In the infatuation stage of a relationship, we experience a high and want to revel in every moment of it and never want it to end. But if a guy makes us pay for every other dinner/date, doesn't open doors, or doesn't produce a memorable date, it burns our high. We just want to feel like a millennium princess and all the above doesn't define Cali girls as gold diggers in a city where boys usually just want to get laid. We judge a man by the car he drives, clothes he wears, how he talks and walks, etc. just to filter out potentials from losers. Ain't nothing wrong with that. So boys: quit it with that smash talk just because you can't get with it. It’s not gold-digging. It’s just a filtering process because we don’t have time to sit there and get to know everyone that “hollas” at us. Real men do not complain nor whine. Real men also know how to sweep a girl off her feet.

-MISSxKAI-

Friday, June 24, 2011

So, What are we? Dating or Boyfriend Girlfriend?


So, What are we? Dating or Boyfriend Girlfriend?

It seems like so many people have all these terms and definitions and rules when in a relationship from “dating” to “dating exclusively” to “going out” to boyfriend girlfriend” to “being together” and so forth.  Maybe it’s just me or does this sound confusing, how does one know what stage they are in, or what is the correct order of stages?  Are you allowed to go from “dating” to “going out” or does that violate the rules of attraction?

Having these sets of terms and labels, in a way kind of keeps adults in high school, or maybe I am just clueless but it seems like this fascination people have with relationship terminology takes away the passion and heated desire of emotion, I could only imagine kissing a girl or getting in heated emotional argument to stop and ask the question, wait dear are we “dating exclusively” or just “dating” cause I am so sorry if we are just dating cause than it was okay for you to kiss the other boy?

Now at what point in this concept of labels and terms, does love at first sight come into play?  Maybe these terms are for people whom don’t believe in love at first sight, this just an interesting topic that I think about and get frustrated when people bring things up of this notion.

For example here is a recent chat conversation I had that actually sparked me to sit down and write something about this:

Maria Sampson: the last two guys i dated for a year each. They weren't my boyfriends...though
Maria Sampson: they were just guys I was seeing
Maria Sampson: testing the waters...
Maria Sampson: I’ve dated a lot
Maria Sampson: but I haven't had many bf's
Maria Sampson: I give most guys a chance...
Maria Sampson: but when it comes to being my boyfriend...I’m super picky but not with dating

Of course I know these terms are based on the “committal” factor but what my point is how does one know when you have secured the next title?  Does one of you make a declaration or an announcement?  Is there a time factor involved, can “dating” expire?  Or does the boy ask the girl like in junior high, and say “I want to be your boyfriend”?

I always assumed, emotional, mental and physical actions expressed the stage of the relationship

But I’ve heard some of you guys and girls are like robots, and when you decide to be boyfriend and girlfriend it’s like you flip a switch and instantly allow yourself to have a more intense emotional and physical relationship just because of the sole factor of a “term” and “label”. 

At what point is it appropriate to bring up these relationship titles?  I am just curious cause I really can’t afford of losing a girlfriend due inadequate relationship title timing issues, plus I think my friends and Mom would tease me like crazy, and it would be a tremendous blow to my self-esteem.

At the end of the day, how you are imprinted on someone’s life and heart is the only true mark any of us leave on this earth, labels and terms shouldn’t determine your actions in a relationship, love should.

Mike Ahuja

  







Tuesday, June 21, 2011

6 bad reasons to date someone

1. Your friends want you to date each other


2. Just Hate being alone


3. He or she asked me out, so why not
4. Getting to "that" age


5. Feeling someone can fix your life


*6. To help with your job / career 


*i am not sure yet about this one lol

Sunday, May 29, 2011

A haiku for you

A haiku for you
by m.ahuja

When our eyes close at night our minds dream, floating into the stars
Drifting away from all of the emotional scars to a place in thus far
Seeing our hearts driving so fast in a static state of nowhere direction
Everyday our mirrored smiles, everyday our mirrored words
Everyday produces a mirrored affection that nurtures our mirrored hearts

Let it be your smile that grabs a hold of me in such way that diamonds need sparkles
Let it be the way your body moves in a way that brings my mind far off the charts
In the brightly lit shine of that youthful lit smile, I am lifted into a place of your touch
Everyday our mirrored smiles, everyday our mirrored words
Everyday produces a mirrored affection that nurtures our mirrored hearts

It’s everyday that I want to be held by you
It’s everyday that I want to hold you tightly
It’s everyday that I want to write a haiku for you

Thursday, April 21, 2011

WHY DO COUPLES FIGHT?

WHY DO COUPLES FIGHT?
WE TOUCH, LIGHTS GO OUT, WE CHASE SHADOWS
Every time when we touch, when the lights go out, we always end up chasing delirious shadows trying to convince ourselves that this dispute is meaningless. We brush it off to the side always screaming tomorrow can wait, but after approaching and touching one another in the same ways, maybe tomorrow can’t wait, maybe it just can’t wait. Couple’s routinely get trapped in a distorted reality blaming passionate disputes on silly and easy to justify reasons such as money and finances for example; when in fact money deep down is really never the root that feeds these arguments, it’s much simpler in truth.
So, why do couples fight?
We tend to slow down the closer we get to sunrise, seeing what tomorrow can bring, but it’s always the same shit, haven’t you noticed? Well if you haven’t maybe you should open up the confines of your gaze and gaze right into the mirror of your partner, but keep the lights on this time and try not to act like a bloodthirsty vampire trying to extract unimportant words that will not lead to resolution.
Waking into the sources and foundations of why couples struggle with fights and arguments that often times can lead to collapse of the combined souls, so many people have gone through a relationship breakup or a divorce and it can be one of the most devastating events in one’s life as you attempt to heal your out of order heart and spirit, but maybe this doesn’t have to occur, as with cancer there are prevention methods, same goes with relationships.
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Monday, April 11, 2011

Tax time is no love

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Wednesday, January 19, 2011

SWEET THINGS TO SAY TO SOMEONE YOU CARE ABOUT ALOT

SWEET THINGS TO SAY TO SOMEONE YOU CARE ABOUT ALOT
  1. I love your smile and the way you make me smile.
  2. I love the way you walk, talk and laugh.
  3. You just make me feel so good.
  4. I will call you honey, darling, sweetheart...
  5. You are the best, you are amazing!
  6. I can’t get enough of you...You drive me wild!
  7. You know me so well, inside and out.
  8. I love you so much...
  9. I love you with my heart and soul...
  10. I love everything about you, inward and outward
  11. You make me laugh all the time!
  12. You keep my spirits so high
  13. You have a wonderful sense of humour, you are so funny...
  14. I love the way you brighten up a room...  
  15. I love the way you love me
  16. I love the way you make me feel
  17. You make me feel at the top of the world!
  18. I never want you to stop loving me
  19. I cherish your love for me
  20. I don’t know what I would do without you in my life
  21. You fill my world with hope and love...
  22. You complete me so well
  23. You make me feel so special and lucky
  24. I need you so badly...
  25. You just made my day
  26. You make my days beautiful and nights wonderful
  27. I can’t get enough of your hugs and kisses...
  28. I am sorry if I ever hurt you
  29. I promise to love and cherish you forever
  30. You are the one for me, my soul mate...
  31. I don’t need anyone else in my life
  32. You satisfy me completely
  33. Marry me and make me the luckiest man in the world!
  34. I have always loved you and will always love you
  35. I miss you terribly.
  36. I am so lonely without you...
  37. My world is empty without you.
  38. I can’t wait to be with you.
  39. I want to be with you forever.
  40. I love the way you hold me.
  41. I cannot bear to part with you for so long.
  42. I feel like I am dreaming when I am with you.
  43.  I have never been loved like this before...
  44. I would like to wake up next to you forever.
  45. It hurts to see you in pain.
  46. I’d rather not be with anyone than you.
  47. You are my Juliet.
  48. A kiss for your every wish
  49. You have changed my life completely
  50. I can’t be thankful enough for the time we have been together...
  51. I will lay down my life for you!
  52. I’d rather not live than live without your love.
  53. I love the way you look up to me.
  54. I trust you with all my heart
  55.  I can't thank you enough for your love...
  56. I cannot express my love for your love completely.
  57. ‘I love you’ is not enough to describe my feelings for you.
  58. You make me feel like the luckiest guy in the world
  59.  I enjoy every moment with you.
  60. You make every other girl pale in comparison.

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

MAY Blankets Pleasure Me in 30 Unlikely Ways

MAY Blankets Pleasure Me in 30 Unlikely Ways

The angels from the land of the Dutch, to those floating in the oceans of Korea, to those on the beaches of Brazil, to those dodging the city of Barcelona, comprehend me now, if the clock strikes me mad, as sometime you MAY see 30 past the hour, right before the big hand meets the little, no one alive can always be a Jesus Christ, you can’t always be an angel, no matter how beautiful your sensual smile is, and it’s fucking beautiful.

The bad becomes so clear, when everything turns mistaken, but I am just a lost soul dancing on the shores of good intent, I’ll be misunderstood even and everyway the angels glance at it, as I say the right things, wrong so many times, and there is no turning back the clock in real time, it’s just apart of the misunderstand.

Clarifications shouldn’t need to be conceived for reasons of justification, but you don’t realize my misunderstood visions of the MAY blankets that pleasure my heart in 30 unlikely ways, so I try to explain but I don’t know where it goes, except trying to the say the right things, but I don’t know how sometimes, I suppose.

When I move closer and clearer down the bumpy roads of vindication, I seem to only be getting further and further, lost in the fog of clarification, from the angels of misunderstanding, wanting to grab my MAY blankets of pleasure, only to realize faster than the spark of a cigarette, that’s my misunderstanding.

Maybe enlightenment of the truth is like a little boy with hopeful eyes attempting to wake from a daydream of illusion, trying not to be misunderstood is just a product of myself but still perhaps I haven’t attempted hard enough to explain myself, more than just shouts of forgiveness to the angels that grab a hold of my sacred words.

Just wanting to be treated like the norm, but the angels they are the ones that treat me differently, I want to believe, I desire in opposition but it’s all blinded in a fog of misunderstanding. The cold snowy winds blew us into a circle of confusion, turning misunderstanding into a mistaken hurricane of fabricated gusts of isolation and abandonment. I tried but only ended up stumbling on my own words deeper into a chaotic disorder, reaching for your hand but became restless thinking I did the best I could do, wanting to hit rewind only to shut my mouth but that’s only fantasy.

I’m not afraid to say that you seem to be answering questions that I am not asking, and it’s become apparent that my apologetic sorrows sound nothing more than a burnt disc skipping on flawed results that are fighting with emotion towards good intentions. Not a bit of this was a part of the plan, so reach out to my hand, and lets pull one another out of this quicksand, and we don’t need to try and understand…we just need to be.

Mike Ahuja