Roles of
Relationships: Men and Women
Trouble is part
of your life, and if you don't share it, you don't give the person who loves
you enough chance to love you enough. ~Dinah Shore
From the start
of human time, affairs of love, romance flings, couples and emotional
relationships there has always been a set of precise roles of gender that have
grown and been active to this very day and have furthered from society’s
advancements.
Even though our
world is being consumed by all things technology, a handful of issues will
always remain unaltered, and the roles of relationship and the roles each
partner plays in a relationship will remain unchanged. When male and female are attracted to
one another, it generally is the girl that provides the signal or light to the
male that he may come forward and introduce himself.
Putting these
courtship roles aside, and going into a situation in which guy and girl are
being locked into each other’s lives routinely and not momentarily creates a
system or roles, unconscious character like actions, that is intriguing and
interesting to analyze when stepping away from the inside and viewing it as a
spectator in a voyeuristic fashion.
It is like we become these characters not by choice but rather by that
of human animalistic nature, as if we are programmed like a computer. Roles of relationships.
The Role
Perceptions
Regardless of
whether these perceptions and viewpoints have been suggested by a female or
hinted at by a female, they sort of just come into play for the male
counterpart in the relationship.
Courteousness and Chivalry will always be a role that is present in
time, and never outdated, no matter how far we advance in other areas of
society. The man must perspire
this concept.
Girls still
enjoy the little things a gentleman has to offer like opening the car door,
walking on the outside of her while strolling down the street, waiting for her
food to arrive before you start eating, and so forth; gentleman type
things. Basically a gentleman is
someone a lady like to keep for while and an arrogant prick is someone she
likes to keep until something better comes along.
Now from the
other side of the coin, men value and welcome women whom are composed
gracefully in a calm and easy going fashion. This is the type of woman that a man would like to bring home
to meet his parents, but lets face it a man would still have loads of fun with
a hot mess, but they don’t see it as anything permanent in most
circumstances.
Men tend have
enormous egos and act territorial about their women, a lot don’t want a girl
who has had more boyfriends or flings than can be counted on one hand. It’s not whether that’s right or wrong,
it just is how a lot men think. On
the other hand women generally don’t care as long as they get to be the last
girl in their life.
Abundant Societal
Beliefs
From the start
of time, when Adam and Eve started fornicating there has been specific social
norms that have continued throughout time such as that a man is supposed to
provide for his family, and women should take care of the children. Than there are some other norms that are
becoming more flipped and sort of a role reversal type thing as society
advances in time such as men paying for dinner dates, or girls waiting for guys
to ask them out, these types of things have been changing and are not as strict
as they once were. Women generally
wait much more patiently for their male counterpart, whereas if a man were to
wait for his lady counterpart to finish with something, he would tend to garner
a sense of impatience and squirm a bit.
These sorts of things circle the minds of people in relationships, like
should I pay for dinner, why doesn’t he ever pay for dinner and so forth.
It’s sort of
weird that society expects certain norms of relationships without questioning
it, like if I am at dinner with a beautiful girl, just her and I. When the bill comes, the waiter 9 out
of 10 times will hand the bill to me, not questioning it but just
instinctual. If you break the mold
society will snap at you for being different.
A good example
besides my dinner dates and the bills is if a very powerful career oriented
woman screws up her marriage and get’s divorced, our world will tend to act a
certain way. The world society
will end up pointing their fingers directly at the woman rather than judging
both the man and lady equally at the damage of the marriage.
Now let’s flip
it on the other side, if a man were to stay at home and take care of the kids
and family, and be a sort of “house husband” society would probably
disapprove. Of course society would
disapprove no matter what country you live in or what religion or language you
speak, men are not supposed to stay home, we are told men must work and bring
home the money, taking care of the children is a women’s job. WRONG! But this is a role of relationships
that we tend to follow without questions, you don’t have to be afraid to stop
and question these roles.
What Actually
Matters the Greatest
When two people
are happy about themself and are qualified in fostering a healthy and blissful
relationship, they will find out what matters most. What actually matters the greatest is the joy of each
partner and growth on a personal level.
Yes there are roles in relationships but if you and your partner choose
to be different, do not let society standards bring you down or question your
relationship as society is just a bystander. Remember if you fall for the traps of society, and your
relationship crumbles, society doesn’t suffer, you do.
The roles of
relationships are based upon what you two choose to do, and if you let society
lead you down the road, and if it’s a road not of your choosing, you will most
likely run into a dead end. The
most important role in a relationship is the ability to understand each other
and to be on the same page with each other’s roles. These roles in your relationship give one another purpose,
and give each other specific responsibilities but you both have to be happy with
these responsibilities for it to work out. It is simple, just be clear and expressive in regards to
what roles you choose in the relationship and are happy with choosing,
otherwise arguments occur and your partner meets someone else waiting in the
wind.
Mike Ahuja
