Saturday, December 19, 2009
How to end a crush, if it is just a crush
It was tough to figure out what I wanted to write about tonight, first I had the idea of pleasing my writing with making some sort of love list on how to reveal a crush but than I got scared cause I think it might be somewhat scary to reveal a crush especially if it were one that has lasted in such an entirely long amount of time.
Is there a time limit you can have on a specific crush? I don’t know, can and are you allowed to use a crush to get over another crush? These are the thoughts that have been consistently on repeat mode in my mind recently, and after some recent self-reflection; I have learned greatly that I have purposely jumped into obsessive love infatuations that have been specifically created on a sub conscious level with the absolute sole motivation to distract me mentally from another crush, or the main long lasting crush shall we refer to it as, how Parisian is that…
Should I reveal this main crush? Should I find and search out a new victim to crush on? Should she be single? Or should she be unattainable, so it extends the crush as now I have to chase and this furthers my amount of distraction from the “main long lasting crush”?
What would you do? How to just get over a crush?
The dictionary refers to a “crush” as being an intense infatuation that is just passing. Wow, what the fuck does “passing,” mean…. passing can be a lifetime in my book…
I would more so view a “crush” as a bittersweet period of time during which you are infatuated with someone you are highly unlikely to ever hook up with (but in your mind you must), eventually leading to a childish dopey ness snuggled by mild temper tantrums, when realization sets…(reality can come and go in spurts)
Regardless of the definition, I am sure we can all come to terms and somewhat of an agreement that a crush usually fucking sucks, and in ways the human heart seems incapable to deal with at times. Well it is either that or the heart has the kinky fetish of masochism, but with either route, I hear there must come a time when you “need” to get over your crush and move forward with your “life”. So if that time is NOW please continue to READ on.
Rule Numero Uno: Understanding What A Crush Isn’t
Once you realize and desire to get over a crush, you could see how easy it is to get over them. The problem is that most people make mistaken them for actual love when they start. We tend to often confuse these crushes as love-at-first-sight, when it actually isn’t.
Rule Numero Dos: Determining Whether or not it’s a Crush
Close your eyes and picture yourself, passionately kissing your crush. Did you wrinkle your nose once your eyelids shut, if so, the person you are crushing on is most likely someone you admire a great deal, but not someone you’d want to sleep next too? Or is it?
If you can imagine yourself kissing them, and imagine taking them somewhere highly public, but if you wrinkled your nose in embarrassment, this is someone you would love sleeping next to and having sex with, but someone you have no intentions to have a meaningful relationship with, (shallow you are)
Now close your eyes, picture saying, “I do,” if you burst into laughter well this is not Mr or Mrs Right and your crush is just physical.
Numero Tres: Dealing with the Results
If you are actually in love with the crush, congratulations! You do not have a crush, and therefore have nothing to get over. You may actually have a broken heart, which probably sucks a whole lot worse…sorry about that…oh fuck!!!
If you have determined that you do have a crush, you are now aware enough to realize that you are either not physically attracted to them at all or that you are but don’t give a rats ass otherwise, use one of these methods to get over it, (listening to Moby songs is not one of the methods)
-Picture making out with the person as often as possible, consider yourself cured when you been conditioned to gag upon seeing them.
-Sleep with them and get the lust out of your system, you’re likely to lose all respect for them immediately afterwards, and will now probably gag upon seeing them regardless.
IF THIS STILL DOESN’T WORK
Tell them about it
What keeps a crush exciting is the unknown factor, the moment you tell someone you have a crush on him or her, you make it a reality. Your mind is forced to change gears and deal with things like an adult, in real time. You can’t just tell someone you have a crush on him or her and then take it back, well not believably anyhow. Once you tell the crush, you place them in a position of responding on some level and to some extent.
Maybe they’ll proclaim everlasting love right then and there, or perhaps they will stare in horror, maybe curl in a ball and cry in an infantile fashion. Whatever they do, it will sober you up quickly, and the crush will either need to evolve into something bigger and better or cry itself out…either way you’ll now be over your crush.
But remember whenever you look at porn and you see your crush, and than immediately picture white picket fences…it’s not a crush.
Visit http://www.lovesickdiaries.com for more information
Is there a time limit you can have on a specific crush? I don’t know, can and are you allowed to use a crush to get over another crush? These are the thoughts that have been consistently on repeat mode in my mind recently, and after some recent self-reflection; I have learned greatly that I have purposely jumped into obsessive love infatuations that have been specifically created on a sub conscious level with the absolute sole motivation to distract me mentally from another crush, or the main long lasting crush shall we refer to it as, how Parisian is that…
Should I reveal this main crush? Should I find and search out a new victim to crush on? Should she be single? Or should she be unattainable, so it extends the crush as now I have to chase and this furthers my amount of distraction from the “main long lasting crush”?
What would you do? How to just get over a crush?
The dictionary refers to a “crush” as being an intense infatuation that is just passing. Wow, what the fuck does “passing,” mean…. passing can be a lifetime in my book…
I would more so view a “crush” as a bittersweet period of time during which you are infatuated with someone you are highly unlikely to ever hook up with (but in your mind you must), eventually leading to a childish dopey ness snuggled by mild temper tantrums, when realization sets…(reality can come and go in spurts)
Regardless of the definition, I am sure we can all come to terms and somewhat of an agreement that a crush usually fucking sucks, and in ways the human heart seems incapable to deal with at times. Well it is either that or the heart has the kinky fetish of masochism, but with either route, I hear there must come a time when you “need” to get over your crush and move forward with your “life”. So if that time is NOW please continue to READ on.
Rule Numero Uno: Understanding What A Crush Isn’t
Once you realize and desire to get over a crush, you could see how easy it is to get over them. The problem is that most people make mistaken them for actual love when they start. We tend to often confuse these crushes as love-at-first-sight, when it actually isn’t.
Rule Numero Dos: Determining Whether or not it’s a Crush
Close your eyes and picture yourself, passionately kissing your crush. Did you wrinkle your nose once your eyelids shut, if so, the person you are crushing on is most likely someone you admire a great deal, but not someone you’d want to sleep next too? Or is it?
If you can imagine yourself kissing them, and imagine taking them somewhere highly public, but if you wrinkled your nose in embarrassment, this is someone you would love sleeping next to and having sex with, but someone you have no intentions to have a meaningful relationship with, (shallow you are)
Now close your eyes, picture saying, “I do,” if you burst into laughter well this is not Mr or Mrs Right and your crush is just physical.
Numero Tres: Dealing with the Results
If you are actually in love with the crush, congratulations! You do not have a crush, and therefore have nothing to get over. You may actually have a broken heart, which probably sucks a whole lot worse…sorry about that…oh fuck!!!
If you have determined that you do have a crush, you are now aware enough to realize that you are either not physically attracted to them at all or that you are but don’t give a rats ass otherwise, use one of these methods to get over it, (listening to Moby songs is not one of the methods)
-Picture making out with the person as often as possible, consider yourself cured when you been conditioned to gag upon seeing them.
-Sleep with them and get the lust out of your system, you’re likely to lose all respect for them immediately afterwards, and will now probably gag upon seeing them regardless.
IF THIS STILL DOESN’T WORK
Tell them about it
What keeps a crush exciting is the unknown factor, the moment you tell someone you have a crush on him or her, you make it a reality. Your mind is forced to change gears and deal with things like an adult, in real time. You can’t just tell someone you have a crush on him or her and then take it back, well not believably anyhow. Once you tell the crush, you place them in a position of responding on some level and to some extent.
Maybe they’ll proclaim everlasting love right then and there, or perhaps they will stare in horror, maybe curl in a ball and cry in an infantile fashion. Whatever they do, it will sober you up quickly, and the crush will either need to evolve into something bigger and better or cry itself out…either way you’ll now be over your crush.
But remember whenever you look at porn and you see your crush, and than immediately picture white picket fences…it’s not a crush.
Visit http://www.lovesickdiaries.com for more information
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