Gold-digging? Or Filtering?
It's been a recurring theme that Cali girls are gold diggers. Hold up: let's define gold digger here for a minute. Definition: a person who dates others purely to extract money from them. "PURELY" is the key word here. So if a girl wants a man who is well-off for security reasons (just to know that financially, issues would be less probable than likely), that hardly constitutes the definition of a gold digger.In the city of Angels where girls are known to be a little materialistic and superficial with their designer shades, DIY or salon-painted nails, latest styles in accessories to accentuate their fashion-forward ensemble, and top notch skincare and make-up to complement their facial features makes this city in Cali a crowd that is not so hard on the eyes. And let's be honest boys, I'm sure you guys aren't complaining about the girls that pass you by. So what if we expect the same from boys? We expect a nice appearance from boys as well, because let’s all be real, the first thing we notice is how a person looks on the outside. That is what attracts us to begin with, male or female. If they have a decent car, we assume he has a decent paying job unless his parents or someone for that matter bought it for him. But for the most part, we hardly assume someone buys any materialistic thing a man possesses unless he is under 21. We make assumptions based on the type of car he drives, where he lives, how he acts, his hair, his clothes, and many more until proven otherwise.
The catch phrase "don't judge a book by its cover" of course is partially true. But everybody is guilty of doing so until a deeper relationship is established and first impressions may remain stagnant, evolve, or completely be obsolete. Let's take for example: those infamous Pyramid schemes. How do you think these schemes have been successful for many years? Mental manipulation coupled with teasing the average person with the taste of high life. The people in the top tier of a pyramid drive Beamer, Benz, or Bentleys in their tailored suits and know how to command a crowd with their presence alone. Their presentation in its entirety attracts the suckers to cough up a few bills to their company. Imagine if recruiters had the exact opposite: outdated cars that leave a bad stench as it leaves the driveway, oversized no-name labeled suits, and a speech impediment. Do you honestly think pyramid schemes would flourish under these circumstances? I highly doubt it. Point being: presentation for the most part is key. We make assumptions based on the exterior of a person, place, or thing on more than one occasion/situation.
So why is it so bad if L.A. girls don't want to waste their time on losers and douche bags? Some of the most attractive qualities in a male are success, passion, and gentlemen mannerism. Of course there are so much more qualities needed to make an actual relationship last, but these qualities are what reels us in to spend our time getting to know an individual for something more than just an old memory. Girls want to feel special in a relationship: adventures in the sea, brunch pool/beach side, 5 Michelin Star restaurants, classy Champagne, surprise presents, spontaneous trips, undivided attention, continuous laughter, and more. Of course we do not need to be spoiled, materialistically, 24/7 unless he is financially capable but we want to feel appreciated, loved, or wanted shown by a grand gesture if and when it’s possible (and boys take notes: doing something grandeur doesn’t ALWAYS require money). In the infatuation stage of a relationship, we experience a high and want to revel in every moment of it and never want it to end. But if a guy makes us pay for every other dinner/date, doesn't open doors, or doesn't produce a memorable date, it burns our high. We just want to feel like a millennium princess and all the above doesn't define Cali girls as gold diggers in a city where boys usually just want to get laid. We judge a man by the car he drives, clothes he wears, how he talks and walks, etc. just to filter out potentials from losers. Ain't nothing wrong with that. So boys: quit it with that smash talk just because you can't get with it. It’s not gold-digging. It’s just a filtering process because we don’t have time to sit there and get to know everyone that “hollas” at us. Real men do not complain nor whine. Real men also know how to sweep a girl off her feet.
-MISSxKAI-
